Abortion Story: Fort Collins, CO
Submitted to Abort73 by a 38-year-old man on February 21, 2013.
I never thought that abortion would affect me. I have always been Pro-Life. I am a father of 4 wonderful children from my first marriage. That marriage ended, and I married a friend of mine. She became pregnant. I was so happy; I can still remember the exact spot I was at when she told me over the phone. I wanted to be a dad again. We were poor and money was tight. But I was still excited to be a father.
I went to my wife's work after I got off work to give her flowers. She was not there. They said she had a medical emergency. I wondered why she would not call me. I called every hospital in the two county area but could not find her. That should have been a huge clue to me. I thought about checking out the abortion clinics, but I thought she would never do that to me. I got a text message telling me she was in the ER, and she had miscarried. I was devastated.
Our relationship soured. She became mean and left. I tried everything I could to save our marriage.
After some time of thinking about it, I knew something had happened so I asked her? She would not give me a straight answer. That is when I knew what happened. A few weeks later she confirmed my worst fear. She had murdered my baby in cold blood and lied about it for 6 months.
I am writing this next to paragraph to my baby, I do not know if it was a boy or girl, but I feel it was a boy and I named it Benjamin. Benjamin, I am so sorry I could not protect you… I was so happy I was going to be your father. You will always have a place in my heart. I regret that I did not see the warning signs. I am sorry your mother did not think about the consequences of her actions. February of 2013 is when you were to be born. I wish I could have saved your life.
To those men out there, here are some warning signs (that the mother of your child might be considering abortion). Remember to keep your eyes open and listen carefully to what your woman is saying or doing. 1) Your woman is very concerned about how you are going to be able to take care of the baby. 2) She is concerned about money and how you can afford the baby. 3) She does not want to talk about baby names. 4) When you put your head down to her stomach to talk to the baby, she get angry. 5) When you bring home baby supplies for the new arrival, it is met with a lack of interest.
I cried my eyes out when she told me she had miscarried and her response to me was, "I do not know why you are so upset. You never even knew it." I now am crying my eyes out for my murdered baby.
It is interesting to me that if a woman wants a baby and the man does not, and he hits her in the stomach and causes the baby to die than he can be held accountable, but if the man wants the baby and the woman does not, then there is nothing a man can do to hold her accountable.
Location: Fort Collins, CO
Date: February 21, 2013